Black Male Self-loathing in the Entertainment Industry Always Seems to Be Directed at Black Women
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them”
I am about to get real and raw. WAKE UP SIS!! These people hate you. They hate the very essence of you. They hate you, their sisters, their mothers, and their mother’s mother. Heck they hate the skin they live in and they are telling you.
#handsdown Light-skinned women usually have better credit than a dark-skinned woman…Broke as dark hoes…Lol
Dark skinned women take a punch @ da face better than light-skinned women…u soft as yellow b–ches…lol
Beautiful black woman, I bet that b*tch look better red.” “…my daughter is the first and last dark skin child I’m having. The rest of my baby moms [are] light skinned chicks. I even got an Asian baby moms to make sure I have a daughter with good hair. Too bad we had a son.
I’m kinda racist…I don’t like dark butts…You know how some women prefer light skin men or dark skin men.It’s rare that I do dark butts – that’s what I call dark skinned women…I [don’t date women] darker than me.
I love the pool test. If you can jump in the pool exactly like you are and you don’t come out looking better than you looked before going in the pool – then that’s not a good look. Any woman that uses brown gel to set down her baby hair is not poppin.
Pilow the Don
…black women need to get their shit together, period, point black. And if you’re in denial of that, you are part of the problem.
Rolling with some light-skin chicks and some Kelly Rowlands.
If it wasn’t for race mixing there’d be no video girls. Me and most of our friends like mutts a lot. Yeah, in the hood they call ‘em mutts
All the prettiest kids are light skinned anyway.
Tyrese (on not having Black women in his video)
I welcomed all women and went with the best…. I don’t do favors.
You can’t call it a stereotype if it’s the majority. The most prevalent image in “urban society” right now is women like Nene [Leaks]. If there’s a fight that breaks out on “Love & Hip Hop” those people are one every blog, the cover of every magazine the next week. It’s not Taraji or Gabrielle, it’s whoever just got into a fist fight. Tyler’s not stereotyping, he’s holding up a mirror and people are mad at him because people don’t want to look at that image in that way.[sic]” read more of the madness here
YES WAKE UP!!
These people hate you but they will gladly take your money. Heck some of them even said so. A chicken wouldn’t support KFC so why in the world would you support a man that hates you. I don’t get it. Is it Stockholm or battered woman’s syndrome. Someone and I mean somebody explain this madness to me. How many times do these Black Women abusers/haters have to trash you before you get it? They aren’t coming home, they are not changing, and no they don’t love you. Love is not pain. Love is kind. Love is sweet and gentle. Sister you are being verbally abused and assaulted and the thing is that you know it. You have become complicit in your own abuse. And guess what? The world sees it and shakes their collective heads because you continue to line your abusers pockets.
I implore you. No I beg you to walk away. Turn off the television. Don’t but that CD. Go to another movie. Build your wealth, health, and self esteem. Heck even pray on it if works for you. Just let these people know you will not stand for it. I don’t care if they apologized. HELLO it’s complete and utter bullocks! They apologized because YOU line their pockets! Think of it like this. If a random white actor or singer said the same thing about Black women wouldn’t you be signing petitions and marching to get his ass fired. So why are these racist Black men any different?
I will close with more infinite wisdom from that great thespian Slim Thug.
It’s hard to trust a Black woman sometimes because a lot of Black women’s mind frame is that the man gotta do everything for her – he gotta pay for this, he gotta pay for that, and if it ain’t about money then a lot of them ain’t fucking with him. If that’s what you’re here for then I don’t want to be with you,” said Slim.
Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us.
I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be fucking with me about it saying, ‘Y’all gotta go through all that shit [but] my White woman is fine. She don’t give me no problems, she do whatever I say and y’all gotta do all that arguing and fighting and worry about all this other shit.’
My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the s**t that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy ass shit. And she’s a smart girl too. She graduated from Columbia [University] and I like that about her so it’s cool. I’ve dated girls that will buy a $3,000 bag and don’t know how to pay it off on their credit cards. They walk around in these Louis Vuittons and red bottoms but they’re riding around in raggedy cars, so it’s just getting your priorities right.
White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that shit. Black women need to stand by their man more. Don’t always put the pressure of if I’m fucking with you, you gotta buy me this and that. Black men are the ones that motherfuckers need [but] I think a lot of them need to step it up too. A Black man who gets a little bread will go make it rain in the club and be broke the next day or instead of im going to invest in a business he gonna go buy new jewelry or a new car and still live in the hood. Black peoples’ mentality is real fucked up in general [and] it’s affecting everything.
“Black women need to be more genuine and be more 50/50 [but] It should be a fair exchange in a relationship period or eventually somebody is gonna feel like they’re getting fucked over whether it’s the woman or the man. I think that will help Black relationships out a lot.
What kills me about these “Black women should bow down” riffs is how many of the dudes saying it came from black women who sacrificed & hustled & damned near killed themselves to help their sons/nephews/friends/grandsons get to where they are now. And notice while they talk about 50/50 relationships & drink deeply from the well of colorist bullshit none of them are talking about giving women anything but money. No love, no emotional support. Homie, if you’re buying pussy that cooks & cleans then all you’re getting is pussy that cooks & cleans. All the money in the world doesn’t entitle you to having a good woman support you while you shit on her.