I’m Not Mad You’re Not Dating A Black Woman
By: Eden Hansom
I personally DON’T CARE who you date.
It is what it is. People are attracted to whoever they’re attracted to. I myself have no problem dating out of my race and I HAVE. However, I DO NOT and WILL NOT put SPECIFIC race or ethnicity on a pedestal because of generalizations!
As usual, with my group of friends, we were having a nice conversation about interracial dating. Since the group consists of mostly men and just two females it got serious. Aside from one black man in the group, most the guys tend to date outside of their race. I wasn’t irritated with that. A friend of ours had REALLY pissed me off because he was putting up all these stereotypical generalizations about black women and putting every other NON-BLACK WOMAN on a precious pedestal.
He said the usual cliche’ “Y’all have attitudes and you’re just too much…….when I’m with a Latina or a Brazilian babe they just treat me right, ya know?”
NO I DON’T KNOW MOTHERF*CKER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was pissed. My best friend/sister was pissed. Was this N*gga serious???? Yes he was! How the HELL can you generalize like that when YOU,
a black man, Nigerian man get judged all the damn time?! Then to turn around and judge the women in your community!!!!! Get serious! I felt disrespected. I felt like my best friend was disrespected. I felt like he disrespected his sister and mother. And in the same breath says, “Oh, not y’all, y’all are different.” I never got that…..you insult me and then try to cover it up like I’m not apart of the group that you just insulted, when in fact I am.People, ESPECIALLY these men who have their “preferences”, don’t base your views and ideas on generalizations and assumptions. Not only do you they offend the people around you, like your loved ones, but they also hinder YOU from personal growth.
Dating people SPECIFICALLY for the future outcome of having offspring with “good hair” or “lighter skin” also doesn’t help you or your family. What ever burdens of color you may have, YOU WILL PASS ON TO YOUR CHILDREN. Stop poisoning your mind with this bullshit and love yourself in order to love YOUR PEOPLE and everyone else for that matter. This self-hatred is pathetic.
People kill me with this assumption that people of any color are automatically better partner material than people of any other color. It’s just foolishness that you shouldn’t ever let out of your mouth.
(Source: leaveyourfeelingsatthedoor)





