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theanimalnamesofplants:

but the thing is, dudes like that? aren’t worth the shit on my shoes. i would just tell them that, too. because the reason why men like this say this shit outloud? is because people let them. when nothing about men who are like this is acceptable, or worthy of any kind of relationship, from friendship or whatever. i wouldn’t feed someone who had that kind of shit coming out of their mouth.

sourcedumal:

blackraincloud:

karnythia:

Wound up in a conversation at work with a “good” black dude who had plenty to say about American black women & how we don’t cater to our men. Mind you, we had this conversation while he was eating a piece of my poundcake (double chocolate & made from scratch thank you very much), and he was telling me about the Thanksgiving meal they had catered & that he cleaned up after because his wife and her mother (who moved in while she was pregnant & never left) were tired. From what? I don’t know. But she’s Puerto Rican with good hair & according to him she caters to his every need. As long as he calls home regularly, doesn’t have any female friends that he sees alone, & makes all the money. Yes, this conversation went astray for him early & stayed astray the entire time.

On the other hand I was fascinated by his logic. See, Black American women who work, go to school, & have other life responsibilities? They’re too independent. And they don’t take care of their men the way women from other countries do. No, it didn’t occur to him that I work, go to school, & still cooked the poundcake he was shoving in his mouth. Nor did he grasp that my mother didn’t move in with me & my husband. He was just convinced that ambitious black woman = no time for home and family. Of course a black American woman with no ambition need not apply. Certainly not one who would only want to stay home with the kids. Because that would be gold digging. It sincerely never occurred to this child that his standards for Black American women were completely different than his standards for anyone else.

I asked about this on Twitter, & the explanation I got boiled down to “He wants his momma in his wife”, but that perplexes me so I have more questions. Why would anyone fix their mouth to say this shit while they were eating food cooked by a black American woman? Why would you claim to be so much better off, when your spouse has you on the electronic equivalent of a choke chain? What makes it necessary for black American women to do everything and receive nothing, but women from any other group can do less & get more? No really, what exactly does it take in the minds of some of these fools to see black women as people? Also, why did this fool have the nerve to be salty when one of the white guys in our group went in on how much he enjoys dating Black American women? See, so many questions. Can anyone answer them?

In my head, he tripped, and, the fork he was using to shovel your cake into his mouth, got impaled in his throat as he landed face down on it and died. 

That’s forever how this story ends, in my brain.

The logic of Black men against Black women is so fuckin ridiculous

You better not be tryin to go to work and school and be supporting yourself because you aren’t paying enough attention to home and him and children…

But your ass better not just be at home taking care of the kids because that means you’re nothing more than a welfare queen leeching off a ‘good man’

We cannot fucking win

WE CANNOT FUCKING WIN

Oh I felt some kind of way that he started eating my food & then decided to insult me. Home training kept me from snatching his face off.

a-spoon-is-born

Why is Breast Cancer Killing So Many Black Women?

girljanitor:

Although 1 out of 8 women will develop breast cancer in the United States, it remains deadliest for Black women.  A recent study by the Sinai Urban Health Institute in Chicago, IL reveals that African-American women are more likely to die of breast cancer not due to genetics, but because of racial disparity and inequality in health care.  Subsequently, nearly five Black women needlessly die everyday because they lack the proper information and quality services.

The realities of inadequate health care, access, and poverty in the Black community are also mixed with fear, silence, and suspicion of the medical system who only fifty years ago purposefully infected 400 poor Black men with syphilis in a medical study known as the Tuskegee experiment

Mistrust and historic disenfranchisement greatly impact those battling breast cancer, a disease that has a 98% survival rate if caught early.  In an interview with Dr. Regina Hampton of the Capital Breast Center the Washington Post writes of this skepticism:

“… Hampton and others think [Black] women also carry angst stemming from a historically unhealthy relationship between African Americans and a medical system that was inaccessible. Often lacking the money or insurance for preventive care, many [Black] people didn’t seek medical help until they were seriously ill.”

In addition to Black women, Black male breast cancer patients and survivors like African-American icon Richard Roundtree who played John Shaft in the 1970s Blaxploitation action film Shaft, face the same barriers compounded with the social stigma with having an illness that rarely impacts men.  Because male breast cancer accounts for just 1% of all breast cancer diagnoses, Black men are even less likely to visit their healthcare provider upon discovery of a lump.  Roundtree, a breast cancer survivor since 1993, is an outspoken advocate male breast cancer and encourages others to break the silence and seek treatment.

Yet beyond the silence, institutional barriers and discrimination in the American healthcare system persist.  In Texas, Governor Rick Perry recently moved to cut $5 million in funds to the Texas Women’s Health Program allotted to Planned Parenthood.  The “war on Planned Parenthood” launched by Republican politicians and the pro-life lobby threatens the organization, which provides millions with vital breast cancer screenings and mammograms nationwide.  With the rate of uninsured African Americans rising to 20.5% in 2010, Planned Parenthood has seen an increase in Black patients rise to 36%, including an increase of 27% of Black males.

As Breast Cancer Awareness Month and October draw to a close, the efforts to spread awareness of breast cancer and secure life saving services should continue.

Early detection and screenings remain critical and The American Cancer Society recommends the following::

●      Breast self-examination starting in the 20s

●      Yearly mammograms starting at age 40

●      Clinical breast exams as part of a periodic health exam and yearly for those over 40

Check out “The Wisdom of Survivors,” featuring African-American breast cancer survivors sharing personal experiences and how they overcame the disease and the barriers to access here.

(note on article content: during the Tuskegee Experiment, the men experimented upon were never told they had it and never given information or an access to the cure-instead, they withheld treatment, allowed them to spread it to their wives and children, and watched 400 men go insane and die of a horrific disease that would have been easily cured with antibiotics. I’m unaware of any evidence that shows that the men were initially infected on purpose, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they weren’t, nor does that make it any less terrifyingly nightmarish.)

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ishmaelgaynor
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alostbird:

loudblackram:

ishmaelgaynor:

These comic strips are the truth well some of them at least

ALL OF THESE COMICS ARE BULLSHIT. TOTAL AND COMPLETE FUCKING NICE GUY MISOGYNISTIC BULLSHIT!

I don’t know who makes these comics but I hope they get hit by a car. 

Again…Again I say, if your into this shit please go dance in traffic. BTW, who makes this shit?

You have to wonder how many broads have hurt these idjits feelings for them to churn out this much bullshit & never once have a moment of introspection. Give me a roughneck who actually thinks I’m a person over a misogynistic asshat who thinks he’s a nice guy any day of the week.

masteradept:

alostbird:

loudblackram:

ishmaelgaynor:

These comic strips are the truth well some of them at least

ALL OF THESE COMICS ARE BULLSHIT. TOTAL AND COMPLETE FUCKING NICE GUY MISOGYNISTIC BULLSHIT!

I don’t know who makes these comics but I hope they get hit by a car. 

Again…Again I say, if your into this shit please go dance in traffic. BTW, who makes this shit?

You have to wonder how many broads have hurt these idjits feelings for them to churn out this much bullshit & never once have a moment of introspection. Give me a roughneck who actually thinks I’m a person over a misogynistic asshat who thinks he’s a nice guy any day of the week.

dion-thesocialist

dionthesocialist:

sourcedumal:

dionthesocialist:

I had an hour long conversation with my big sister today (Zena the Sociologist). We ranted about how society unfairly judges black women based on their ability to attract black men, even though black women are some of the most intelligent people I’ve ever met, and black men, while demonized by society, can be pretty sorry fucks.

I like her a lot.

Dion, now why you go and post this? Now I got to go in about how black women aren’t just judged on their ability to attract black men, we’re judged on our ability to put up with their abuse for extended periods of time while society blames us for the behavior.

Because clearly she ain’t doing right if he’s beating her, raping her and cheating on her, right?

She just ain’t prayin hard enough or bending over to satisfy his needs with no reciprocity….

Damn it dion. It’s 1:30 in the mornin….

I’m sorry. I know it’s late at night (2:40am here), but it’s not hard to believe that sorry niggas dominate so much of the societal expectation for black women, since white folks have decided to put sorry niggas as the representatives of the black community.

As I black man, please allow me to apologize for the bullshittery that is Tyler Perry and Steve Harvey, two of the sorriest sorry niggas who were ever niggas and simultaneously sorry. Forgive me please if I’m out of step here, but it seems like for all there attempts to write strong, black women, they’ve done nothing but redefine “strong” as meaning “willing to put up with abuse from sorry niggas.”

Abuse culture is awful everywhere, but in the black community, it’s lately been treated as something positive, something that is supposed to be admired. That is some ass backward bullshit. 

Harvey & Perry (and a lot of the gross bullshit pretending to be hip hop) are profiting off catering to white expectations of black culture to be fair. I know a lot of people in our communities aren’t okay with their messages, but they’re not getting the same deals (I still need an explanation of Perry’s success that doesn’t involve a deal with the devil because that’s all I’ve got), or the same media push. Cosby Show, Roc, Different World etc. were all huge hits but no one in Hollywod seems to be checking for anything but black pathos porn lately & bonus points if black women are thrown under the bus. Interestingly these things are happening at the same time more black women are in college & succeeding in the work force than at any other time in history. Hmmm…

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dion-thesocialist

deluxvivens:

karnythia:

deluxvivens:

karnythia:

 Let’s not forget the erasure of healthy black relationships from the media as well as the myth that the only way to find someone decent is in the church. The same church that teaches that women should be submissive while ignoring that the Bible was actually speak of a partnership where husbands & wives submitted to each other & worked together in all things.

Why are you all starting this ratchet at bedtime? Do you want me to start ranting about the erasure of intra poc relations too? 

(dont give me that look, karnythia. dont.)

Ma’am, you know you deserve that look. Also, let’s talk about how often black women are given conflicting messages & expected to live up to all of them. Can’t be too sexual, must be sexual enough, can’t need anything from anyone, must be willing to let a man be a man, must have good morals, be willing to share a man…the list is exhausting.

Ma’am. MA’AM.  Are you throwing nelson and winnie shade at me when it is breakfast time in France? Really?

I’m down to throw shade at all hours bb. Especially if we want to dig into the reactions of white people to intra poc relationships, especially those involving black women.

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dion-thesocialist

deluxvivens:

karnythia:

sourcedumal:

dionthesocialist:

I had an hour long conversation with my big sister today (Zena the Sociologist). We ranted about how society unfairly judges black women based on their ability to attract black men, even though black women are some of the most intelligent people I’ve ever met, and black men, while demonized by society, can be pretty sorry fucks.

I like her a lot.

Dion, now why you go and post this? Now I got to go in about how black women aren’t just judged on their ability to attract black men, we’re judged on our ability to put up with their abuse for extended periods of time while society blames us for the behavior.

Because clearly she ain’t doing right if he’s beating her, raping her and cheating on her, right?

She just ain’t prayin hard enough or bending over to satisfy his needs with no reciprocity….

Damn it dion. It’s 1:30 in the mornin….

 Let’s not forget the erasure of healthy black relationships from the media as well as the myth that the only way to find someone decent is in the church. The same church that teaches that women should be submissive while ignoring that the Bible was actually speak of a partnership where husbands & wives submitted to each other & worked together in all things.

Why are you all starting this ratchet at bedtime? Do you want me to start ranting about the erasure of intra poc relations too? 

(dont give me that look, karnythia. dont.)

Ma’am, you know you deserve that look. Also, let’s talk about how often black women are given conflicting messages & expected to live up to all of them. Can’t be too sexual, must be sexual enough, can’t need anything from anyone, must be willing to let a man be a man, must have good morals, be willing to share a man…the list is exhausting.

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dion-thesocialist

sourcedumal:

dionthesocialist:

I had an hour long conversation with my big sister today (Zena the Sociologist). We ranted about how society unfairly judges black women based on their ability to attract black men, even though black women are some of the most intelligent people I’ve ever met, and black men, while demonized by society, can be pretty sorry fucks.

I like her a lot.

Dion, now why you go and post this? Now I got to go in about how black women aren’t just judged on their ability to attract black men, we’re judged on our ability to put up with their abuse for extended periods of time while society blames us for the behavior.

Because clearly she ain’t doing right if he’s beating her, raping her and cheating on her, right?

She just ain’t prayin hard enough or bending over to satisfy his needs with no reciprocity….

Damn it dion. It’s 1:30 in the mornin….

 Let’s not forget the erasure of healthy black relationships from the media as well as the myth that the only way to find someone decent is in the church. The same church that teaches that women should be submissive while ignoring that the Bible was actually speak of a partnership where husbands & wives submitted to each other & worked together in all things.

nukirk

For those out there who believe black people to be less than pure royalty, let me inform you of a little known, but scientifically proven, many times over, FACT. Which after reading, you will hopefully feel both very stupid and very sorry. For you dishonor your own mothers and grandmothers.

EVERY human being on earth, no matter what their culture, creed, skin colour, or nationality, shares one gene traceable back to one African woman. Scientists have named it ‘The Eve Gene’. This means ALL of us, even ridiculously stupid, ignorant, perverted, blaspheming racists are the descendants of one African woman.

One African woman is the mother of all of us. Africa was the first world. You come from there! Your skin may be ‘white’.. because you didn’t need it to be black any more where you lived. But as Curtis Mayfield said.. “You’re just the surface of our dark, deep well”. So you’re being morons. And God is having the last laugh at your ignorant expense.

If you hate black people, its yourself you hate. And the mother who bore you. If you kill or wish ill on black people, its yourself you kill and wish ill on. As well as the mother who bore you.

When you dishonor the the utter glory and majesty of black people, you lie. Your heart lies to you and you let it. Despite seeing every day, all your life, how you and your country would be less than wonderfully functioning and inspiring to the world, without the manifold and glorious contributions made by the descendants of African slaves, who did not by the way actually ask to go to America and leave their future families there to be disrespected for eternity.

What are you doing hating yourself by hating your brothers and sisters who daily show you nothing but inspiration and love, despite having NOTHING, in their own country? Despite having barely a chance of anything, because of racism. Despite being granted no ‘permission’ for proper self-esteem.

These beautiful people continue to believe in and even manifest Jesus Christ better than you do. That alone could stand as the greatest reason your racism is blasphemy, were it not for all the other reasons.

These people you hate and fear ARE the body of Christ, just as we all are. Every child, woman or man. And they know it. Maybe thats why you cant bear to look at them. Because you see Jesus Christ and you cant stand the light.

Stop this ridiculous and uneducated attitude. You would be dead without black people. Think of all the greatest music ever composed. The greatest songs. The greatest inspirational heroes.. Muhammad Ali, Mandela, Martin Luther King, Harriet Tubman, Soujourner Truth, Bob Marley, Nina Simone, Curtis Mayfield. So many absolute angels, sent from God.

Without the inspiration of these people many millions of so-called ‘white’ people, including myself would not have had the strength to pay the price of life.

Sinéad O’Connor - Open Letter About Trayvon Martin (via nukirk)

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Englewood 5 Exonerated in Cook County

ashesforjustice:

Today a Cook County judge vacated the convictions of a group of men, known as the Englewood 5, who were falsely arrested and harshly prosecuted for crimes they did not commit. This decision and the Nov. 3 exoneration of the Dixmoor 5 in a separate but similar case show that evidence, hope, and tireless legal and community advocacy can overcome long-standing injustices.

Today’s decision closes a painful chapter in Chicago’s criminal justice system. But forced confessions and wrongful convictions— particularly for youth of color— remain, and we will not rest until these abusive and discriminatory practices end.

Today’s ruling is clearly a victory for everyone impacted by forced confessions, wrongful convictions and unjust incarceration. This decision condemns irresponsible law enforcement practices and encourages Cook County police and prosecutors to focus on real efforts to reduce crime and protect the public’s safety.

The activism of 65,000 ColorOfChange.org members (including thousands of calls to State’s Attorney Anita Alvarez) and the tireless legal efforts of our friends at the Center on Wrongful Convictions of Youth and the Innocence Project helped secure freedom for the Black men known as the Cook County 10— bringing justice for some who’ve waited nearly 20 years.

We’re grateful for our members’ vigilance and are encouraged by the deep commitment of the ColorOfChange.org community to take on the inequality and gross injustice that remain in the criminal justice system.

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sonofbaldwin

The Bullet Next Time: An Open Letter to My Unborn, Black Son

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