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The one thing I’ve learned from nice guys of OK Cupid

thunderwishes:

karnythia:

thunderwishes:

We gotta stop lying to these guys.

I know, sometimes we do it because we don’t want the fight, or we’re kinda nervous and some of them scare the crap out of me..so I understand the gentle let down I truly do.

But these motherfuckers think they are -nice-. They think that they are somehow decent human beings and their entire problem is -us- we just aren’t you know looking for nice racist homophobic slut shaming ‘patriarchal’ men like them!

So ladies, when you have the chance, and you feel safe? don’t fucking varnish that shit no more. Be honest ‘You kind of make me uncomfortable, we have nothing in common and the fact that you’re homophobic turns me off’.

Maybe if they start hearing it enough they’ll start believing it..Because really I’m fucking tired of being accused of putting someone in the ‘no bone zone’ because I’m not interested in people who aren’t willing to be more than ‘less of an asshole than the other guys’

I’ve told some dudes flat out they weren’t a catch. I’ve never done internet dating, but offline? They tend to think that makes you a challenge & they try harder to get your attention. It’s funny in a horrifying way how quick some of them are to rewrite themselves to prove you wrong.

It can go both ways and thats why I was really clear about understanding the gentle let down. I do online dating and I’m real clear with a lot of these guys -and- I block and report when it gets to harassing levels and yeah it goes there an awful lot.

In real life? yeah I’ve had a few like that too (my last ex is one, still hounding my ass after I’ve told him I’ve moved on and am with someone new) but seriously I’m dog ass tired of being told it’s because they are -too nice- that I don’t want to reward their fake ass friendship with my pussy.

WELP!

thunderwishes

The one thing I’ve learned from nice guys of OK Cupid

thunderwishes:

We gotta stop lying to these guys.

I know, sometimes we do it because we don’t want the fight, or we’re kinda nervous and some of them scare the crap out of me..so I understand the gentle let down I truly do.

But these motherfuckers think they are -nice-. They think that they are somehow decent human beings and their entire problem is -us- we just aren’t you know looking for nice racist homophobic slut shaming ‘patriarchal’ men like them!

So ladies, when you have the chance, and you feel safe? don’t fucking varnish that shit no more. Be honest ‘You kind of make me uncomfortable, we have nothing in common and the fact that you’re homophobic turns me off’.

Maybe if they start hearing it enough they’ll start believing it..Because really I’m fucking tired of being accused of putting someone in the ‘no bone zone’ because I’m not interested in people who aren’t willing to be more than ‘less of an asshole than the other guys’

I’ve told some dudes flat out they weren’t a catch. I’ve never done internet dating, but offline? They tend to think that makes you a challenge & they try harder to get your attention. It’s funny in a horrifying way how quick some of them are to rewrite themselves to prove you wrong.

girljanitor

[serious tw: rape, murder, ableism] FEMINISM REJECTED ME: No matter what I do or where I go, someone has to mention that we should all take a moment to feel bad for **mothers** who want to murder their disabled children

girljanitor:

sheathandshear:

girljanitor:

and sociopathic asshats like Lisa Wade who feel the PRESSING FEMINIST ISSUE is sticking up for mothers who murder their disabled children

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NOT DISABLED WOMEN, WHO IF THEY MAKE IT TO ADULTHOOD WITHOUT BEING MURDERED, ENDURE A RATE OF VIOLENCE, RAPE, AND ABUSE THAT IS FUCKING UNREAL.

70%-83% of developmentally disabled women have been, are, or will be raped.

Countless women with disabilities have been, are or will be forcibly sterilized in order to conceal evidence of their current or future rape. INCLUDING SMALL CHILDREN.

Countless women with disabilities are pressured to abort their pregnancies or given misinformation about their ability to have children.

Countless women have been denied basic accessibility tools in order to report their abuse or rape.

Women with disabilities who live in institutions are up to ten times more likely to be abused than women without disabilities.

Shit like this is why Linda Cornelison, a 19-year old woman, was tortured to death by medical staff at the Judge Rotenburg Center, receiving more than 57 applications of “aversives” in the last four hours preceding her death from a perforated ulcer,  such as bruising muscle pinches and ammonia pellets broken directly under her nose. NO ONE WAS HELD RESPONSIBLE FOR HER DEATH.

This misplaced “sympathy” is why children like 3-year-old Amelia Rivera are denied lifesaving organ transplants and doctors fell comfortable telling their parents their lives aren’t worth saving.

“FEMINISTS” LIKE THESE ARE MORE CONCERNED ABOUT SYMPATHY FOR WENDY GARLAND’S MURDERERS THAN HER. More concerned about the two women who let her die covered in her own filth in a room over 100 degrees, where she lay bedridden and without medical attention for more than two years.

The media is more concerned about DOMESTIC ABUSER’S STRESS LEVEL then the fact that they’re BEATING THE SHIT OUT OF THEIR WIVES.

When 87% of women with severe disabilities are beaten by their partners, they are told they should “just leave”.

When young disabled women are burned to death by their mother, Lisa Wade asks, but what about that poor murderer???

And THE FUCKING MEDIA LOVES stories like this one that tell a sympathetic tale of a “poor mother” who drowned her disabled 4-year-old daughter in the bathtub, who has been released and plans to have more children, and has been ruled “not a threat” to children.

Laura Cummings, raped and tortured to death by her mother and other family members, and Lisa Wade would like us to sympathize with these “poor mothers”.

Zahra Baker, a disabled 10-year-old girl, was raped, murdered, dismembered and fed to wild animals, and Elisa Baker, her stepmother, was sentenced to 15-18 years for second degree murder…SHE FACES MORE TIME ON UNRELATED DRUG CHARGES THAN SHE DOES FOR THE MURDER. Her father received a 30-day suspended sentence for unrelated misdemeanors.

Betty Ann Gagnon, 48, lived most of her life on her own until she was beaten to death by her family after spending the previous FIVE YEARS IN A CHICKEN WIRE CAGE AND TENT SMEARED WITH HER OWN FECES. HER FAMILY WAS *NOT* CHARGED WITH MURDER.

THESE ARE NOT ISOLATED EVENTS.

THIS IS SYSTEMATIC VIOLENCE IN A WORLD THAT TELLS PEOPLE IT’S A-OK TO TORTURE, RAPE, AND MURDER DISABLED WOMEN AND ACTIVELY FACILITATES THEIR ABUSE, RAPE, AND MURDER.

“FEMINISTS” WHO DON’T UNDERSTAND THAT PRO-CHOICE WORKS BOTH WAYS

WHERE OPENLY EUGENICIST “FEMINISTS” LIKE THESE ARE HAPPY TO TELL ME I SHOULD NEVER HAVE EXISTED BECAUSE I’M A BURDEN TO WOMEN WHO “COUNT” AS WOMEN.

I AM SILENCED AND SPOKEN OVER

WHY WOULD I SUPPORT A MOVEMENT THAT WOULD BE GLAD TO SEE ME DEAD?

Okay, I don’t usually comment on these things (and how who the fuck reads this tumblr anyways?), but I will put this out there: expressing sympathy for someone who is in an incredibly difficult situation is not being a “sociopathic asshat”. Did Wade ever advocate murdering mentally or otherwise disabled children? Did she exonerate real (or even fictional) mothers who killed or abused their children? No. Did she “urge us to sympathize” with ‘poor mothers’ such as Laura Cummings’ parents? Show me where she said that, because I sure can’t find it. Did she acknowledge that the system is stacked against these kids and their parents alike, and the fact that being a caregiver on top of a parent can be an incredibly difficult and even intensely negative experience that can make people confront the fact that, sometimes, in these types of bad situations, a part of them wants things that are pretty horrible? Yes. And I will be the first to agree that the way the world treats disabled women is absolute shit, shameful and dehumanizing and all of the awful things you link to are too true, and happen again and again. But you know what’s not going to help rally people behind preventing this shit? Jumping on a random woman who wrote an article - in which, by the way, the most damning thing that she said on the subject was that she “wondered if [the mother who posted the PostSecret] was feeling… simultaneously exhausted and filled with guilt” - and declaring that she’s just like people who kill, rape, neglect, mutilate, and torture their children. Or declaring that women who admit they would struggle with the question of whether or not they would be able to raise a disabled child, or even questioning whether congenital disabilities like athsma, heart disease, etc. should be filed under the question of ‘diversity’, are somehow “OPENLY EUGENIST”. (Leaving aside the fact that disabled children of mothers who are unable or unwilling to care for them are logically the most likely to be abused and/or neglected, and so the pro-choice question isn’t a just matter of GOOD MOM vs. EVIL HUMAN BEING.) And maybe I just speak for myself here, but were I a parent of a child wish disabilities, or pregnant and confronting the question of whether or not to screen for disabilities, and what to do if the results came back positive, my response to this sort of vitriolic policing wouldn’t be, “Well, maybe she’s right. Maybe I should never feel overwhelmed or guilty or even occasionally resentful, and to express those feelings (even if I never act on them), or sympathize with people who express those feelings, or hell, even POINT OUT THAT THESE FEELINGS COULD EXIST, makes me evil and worthy of scorn, righteous rage, and hatred.” Quite frankly, my response would be (and is), “I’m a feminist and yeah, amazingly enough, I don’t want your overreacting and your policing.”

The thing is, you’re a minority and want to change the world so that it treats you better? You’re going to need allies, and speaking as one of them, this is not the way to do it. Being an abled ally, any kind of ally, isn’t about being 100% perfect, or even 80%, ain’t about agreeing with people who swear at you and insult you for being ignorant, or expressing a different opinion than yours, because the world has treated them like crap and the rage feels good burning in their chests and shouting from their computer screen. It’s getting people together, abled and disabled, and saying: Hey. This woman called Lisa Wade wrote this article about how mothers of disabled kids can get to feeling really isolated, overwhelmed, and depressed because proper resources are not available to them, money can get even tighter than it would with an abled kid, and they’re expected to be lawyers and doctors and social workers and a million other things besides mothers just to get them to see the right doctor, or get them into the right school, not to mention expected to never feel resentful about any of this. Meanwhile, these kids are getting murdered and abused in huge numbers, partly because of the same lack of resources, oversight, and support (financial, logistical, educational, medical, emotional) that’s fucking over their caregivers. And maybe Lisa Wade is doesn’t consider it from the kid’s perspective, or overtly call out this system as being horrifically linked to institutionalized abuse and oppression, but even she seems to pick up on the fact that it’s pretty damn screwed up. How can I help change it, and how can I get other people to help, too?

WHERE DID SHE SYMPATHIZE???

RIGHT HERE, WHEN SHE POSTED THIS:

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AND CALLED FOR TRYING TO UNDERSTAND THE MOTHER AND HER FUCKING FEELINGS

ANYONE WHO THINKS I SHOULD KISS THEIR ASS TO GET THEM TO RECOGNIZE MY HUMANITY IS A FUCKING OPPRESSOR

What the fuck makes you think I would want someone like you OR Lisa Wade as an “ally”

YOU’RE NOT AN ALLY.

YOU’RE A FUCKING OPPRESSOR.

Anyone who thinks that I should be CALM in the face of rape, murder, torture, dismemberment, and all of the millions of people who FACILITATE THESE CRIMES INCLUDING YOU id a fucking oppressor, not an ally.

YOU ARE THE PEOPLE WHO ALLOW THIS TO KEEP HAPPENING.

walidhani

ズリの: aragingquiet: brittni0830: walidhani: THIS WHITE PERSONIS CALLING ME...

girljanitor:

brittni0830:

aragingquiet:

brittni0830:

walidhani:

THIS WHITE PERSON

IS CALLING ME RACIST

IF I WASN’T HAVING A FUCKING PANIC ATTACK I’D LAUGH

but I’m glad to know your alliances lie with the whites, Chels

That’s good to know

I’ve been meaning to cut the poisonous people from my life…

That’s weird, I don’t remembering subjugating anyone. Neither did my ancestors who came here on a boat from Italy and lived in Chicago, working in blue-collar positions.

YOU ARE UNEDUCATED AND DO NOT KNOW SHIT.

Word-use is important. Americans use the terms “people of color” and “race” to designate immigrant groups who have not yet assimilated (1860 Irish, 1900 Italians, 1920 Jews, 1940 Chinese, 1950 Puerto Ricans, 1990 Haitians). Conversely, they use “White” and “ethnicity” to denote groups who have been accepted into the mainstream (1920 Irish, 1930 Italians, 1950 Jews, 1970 Chinese, 1980 Puerto Ricans). This is so very important that I must clarify. In other words, it is useless to ask whether Irish or Chinese or Puerto Ricans are really people of color or whether they really belong to the White “race.” You cannot apply the adverb “really” to social fiction—it is like asking whether the Tooth Fairy is really married, or if the Easter Bunny is really a hare. There is no “really” about it. According to both U.S. law and popular culture, each of the above groups belonged to a “colored race” before they became accepted, and the very same group belonged to a “White ethnicity” after that instant.2

REALLY  YOU DO NOT KNOW SHIT.

Ironically, Irish Catholics came to this country as an oppressed race yet quickly learned that to succeed they had to in turn oppress their closest social class competitors, free Northern blacks. Back home these “native Irish or papists” suffered something very similar to American slavery under English Penal Laws. Yet, despite their revolutionary roots as an oppressed group fighting for freedom and rights, and despite consistent pleas from the great Catholic emancipator, Daniel O’Connell, to support the abolitionists, the newly arrived Irish-Americans judged that the best way of gaining acceptance as good citizens and to counter the Nativist movement was to cooperate in the continued oppression of African Americans. Ironically, at the same time they were collaborating with the dominant culture to block abolition, they were garnering support from among Southern, slaveholding democrats for Repeal of the oppressive English Act of the Union back home. Some even convinced themselves that abolition was an English plot to weaken this country.

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thunderwishes

Paul Ryan mocks the 'War on Women' at a fundraiser.

thunderwishes:

“Now it’s a war on women; tomorrow it’s going to be a war on left-handed Irishmen or something like that,” Ryan told the crowd of donors, according to Shushanna Walshe of ABC News.

Democrats began using the “war on women” rhetoric in late 2011 to describe an unprecedented legislative focus by Republican lawmakers during the last two years on limiting women’s access to abortion and contraception. Ryan has cast 60 votes on abortion and reproductive rights issues during his time in the House of Representatives, and all of them were deemed “anti-choice” by women’s health advocates.

Left handed Irishmen. Oh but this is not my favorite part! oh no! my favorite part is this.

Rich Beeson, political director for Mitt Romney’s campaign, echoed Ryan’s sentiment in an interview with ABC7 News on Thursday, calling women’s reproductive rights and equal pay “small things” that are not important to voters.

“Barack Obama four years ago said, ‘If you don’t have something to talk about on the issues you talk about the small things,’” Beeson said in response to a question about women’s issues. “And that’s what we’re seeing from the Obama campaign … They don’t have an issue to run on, they dont have an agenda for the next term, so they want to talk about the small things and distract America from the important things of restoring and strengthening the middle class and putting America back to work.”

Listen to me you fucking cretin, my reproductive rights, my autonomy, my freedom of choice my ability to decide things for MY BODY are not ‘small things’. And for you to even imply in any small fashion that they are makes you one of the most despicable and misogynistic fuckwads I have ever had the displeasure of becoming aware of.

somethiingsneverchange

One pet peeve that has been reoccurring in my current classroom:

notesonascandal:

reverseracism:

somethiingsneverchange:

Racist people who bash on others who they claim to be racist.  Does that make sense?  Or would the pet peeve be hypocrisy?  

mm no. Because I want to highlight the word “racism”.

A culturally structured term with absolutely no meaning other than what people make of it.  You want to complain because your “(insert ethnicity here) brothers” are suffering due to our ignorantly caucasian society?  Guess what.  White people get shit too.  But that is certainly not the point.  By sticking up for your heritage, you are showing pride in your nationality.  By pointing out the lack of privileges or unjust rulings against the favor of people of your ethnicity, you are openly labeling yourself as a selfishly racist activist.  I don’t deny the fact that various races may feel underprivileged because of their ethnicity. But do you know why they feel that way?  Because of you.  People like you who live to preach racism to the world and let it be known that you believe there is a difference between people of different ethnicities.  You make it clear that you feel “your people” are treated unfairly in comparison to others.  When you believe it and start spreading the word, guess what?  they’ll believe it too.

That bolded right there.

K. smh.

Girl, bye. You sound dumb as shit. 

Now you know that racism would stop having an impact if we’d all stop talking about how it hurts us. Or something.

jalwhite:

intellectual-stupidity:

theuppitynegras:

pleasejustsendthemallmyway:

And I will be praying for this little girl every day of my life. Honestly, cried having to leave her behind. I have never felt more connected to a child before. And we don’t even speak the same language. My heart seriously goes in a knot thinking about her growing up in a village without Jesus being preached in the churches and schools.



people ask me what white savior complex is
this is white savior complex

This is textbook. And to think some people believe colonialism is long over.

jalwhite:

intellectual-stupidity:

theuppitynegras:

pleasejustsendthemallmyway:

And I will be praying for this little girl every day of my life. Honestly, cried having to leave her behind. I have never felt more connected to a child before. And we don’t even speak the same language. My heart seriously goes in a knot thinking about her growing up in a village without Jesus being preached in the churches and schools.

people ask me what white savior complex is

this is white savior complex

This is textbook. And to think some people believe colonialism is long over.

lilliep

deliciouskaek:

thinkspeakstress:

decantedjade:

betweengreenandgray:

negritaaa:

lilliep:

Dear White People (2012)

DEAR WHITE PEOPLE follows the stories of four black students at an Ivy League college where a riot breaks out over a popular “African American” themed party thrown by white students. With tongue planted firmly in cheek, the film will explore racial identity in “post-racial” America while weaving a universal story of forging one’s unique path in the world. 

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So here for this.

Omg.

[This is like the sixth draft of this. The first draft was the best, but when I tried to post it Tumblr was all like HAHA NO FUCK YOU, YOU DON’T GET TO SAY THINGS and I lost it. Lost drafts a few times because of site glitches. Anyway, here we go.]

I am white. I am really, really white. Most of my ancestors come from the British Isles; those who didn’t came from Germany and France and Norway, and were all also very white. I can get a sunburn in December with 85 SPF slathered fucking everywhere.

I don’t discuss race very often, because frankly I don’t think about it much. I don’t worry about whether or not I appear racist because I assume that my actions will speak for themselves. I don’t give a fuck about your ancestors. I don’t give a fuck about what you look like. All I care about is who you are; what you do and how you do it and what you say and how you say it. But since this is titled “Dear White People”, and I am white, I am forced to conclude that you are addressing me.

So, I’ll respond to all of your statements in order:

I currently have no close black friends. I happen to live in a place where whites and Hispanics greatly outnumber any other ethnicities, so I am statistically more likely to find white and Hispanic friends. As it turns out, my closest friends are white (one is half Jewish, so there’s a little diversity). This was not a conscious decision, merely how the dice landed. I have never specifically sought out someone black so I could make friends with them. Does that make me racist?

My weed comes from many sources, none of whom are black or named Tyrone. Your automatic association of black people, named Tyrone or not, with illegal activity is actually pretty racist in and of itself.

I would never touch someone without their express, or at least implied, permission. People do that? What the fuck? If your hair is different from mine, yeah I might be fascinated by it, but that’s not racist. Lots of people find all sorts of hair fascinating, and wanting to get acquainted with the texture is not a sign of condescension. It’s a sign of being interested in hair.

Anyone who claims that any kind of music makes them practically whatever is a moron and I do not appreciate being lumped in with morons. “Ooh, I listen to Aboriginal music, I’m practically an Australian native myself! Ooh, I listen to country/bluegrass, I’m practically white!” No. If some white people do claim this, I hope you’re slapping them. If black people are claiming that country makes them whiter, I hope you’re slapping them too.

The only kind of people who piss my family off are the kind who steal, rape, murder, or use drugs irresponsibly. If they were to get pissed off about me dating a black person, however, that would in no way delegitimize my relationship with that person, because I would never date someone for the sole purpose of pissing off someone else. That’s not dating, that’s using. Plus, just because someone’s parents are racist doesn’t mean they are. Assumptions, people.

I will NEVER STOP DANCING. So fuck you.

[EDIT: Someone messaged me and said “Someone’s going for the special cookie award. The film isn’t an attack on white people.” I would like to clarify that I am not attacking the film, I haven’t seen it and don’t know anything about it, it could be the greatest thing ever. I am just responding to the GIFs, which I interpreted as less of an attack on white people and more as an open letter, and honestly I wouldn’t have said anything if the last one hadn’t said “Stop dancing.” If you don’t like the way I dance, don’t watch me. Telling anyone not to dance is fucked up.]   

Oh my god. Lol the perfect example of why PoC can’t have anything without a white person pitching a fit. Lmao

in which the point is straight ahead and decantedjade goes left.

That yotch didn’t even visit the area of the point & managed to prove the filmmaker’s point. Amazing.

(via deliciouskaek)

thedarkchocolatedandy

you'll never know: Dear White People. I want to tell you a story about your future.

strugglingtobeheard:

sourcedumal:

ashdufault:

thechocolatedandy:

You have a family, it’s not perfect, but you’ve managed to scrape together some form of happiness with your partner and kids.

You have two of them. Samantha who’s nine and Devin who just turned sixteen.

Samantha has always been a bit of tomboy. It wouldn’t be out of the…

Excuse me?  You people are perpetuating racism by doing this shit.  It’s sickening.  Also, guess what?  This SCIENTIFICALLY will not be the future, but in your vengeful minds, you want it to be.  The future of skin color is TAN.  A mix of all races.  Most people I know don’t see race - have you ever heard of the self fulfilling prophecy? Cause I know it revolves around tumblr.  Black guy fears people think he’s acting suspicious, so he shifts his eyes and looks suspicious, then gets shot when he runs away from police because he’s nervous.  This happens to white people all the time.  The only thing that you people think is special about this is that he’s black.  The hypothetical person here is a PERSON.  Not primarily black.  Not primarily Mexican.  And most people see it that way, too - but non-whites.

Let me tell you something.  I’m poor, I’m female, overweight, and have invisible disabilities. But I’m white.  I can’t even get a SCHOLARSHIP because of my lack of skin pigmentation, despite having above average grades.  I’m mostly Native American - I can’t even get tax breaks or a full scholarship without paperwork that I don’t have. You don’t think I’m judged, mistreated, just because I’m “white?” Stop being so fucking self-centered, hating on whitey, cause you know what?  Whitey understands.  If you want to hate someone, hate old, rich white men.  They have always had it the easiest, and WILL always have it the easiest, if everyone keeps their heads firmly planted up their own asses.

Thank you, have a nice day.

So you are blaming black people for your ineptitude in getting scholarships when it’s been shown that white people overwhelmingly get scholarships and that race based scholarships make up less than one percent of all scholarships?

And let’s totally talk about how this whole “I don’t see race” ideology is actually the worst ideology for battling racism because white people are actually MORE likely to accept racism.

And TAX BREAKS? Please inform me where Black people get tax breaks simply for being BLACK?

Because last time I checked, I don’t get tax breaks for being Black, but I sure as hell get paid less than your white ass….

Take a seat, hon. You’re talking about things that don’t happen in reality.

this bitch just said Black men get shot because of a self-fulfilling prophecy doe… she just said that. really? really doe? i would smack the fuck outta you in person right now with that victim blaming fucking shit.

also, source told them. what is with these lazy, not knowing how to do a lick of research white people complaining about scholarships? they really think fuckers is just gonna knock on their door or be in their inbox automatically like here is all the info blessed white child, now you will get a scholarship. while not lifting a finger. there are so many fucking essay contests and writing contests and random raffles and all that shit, even scholarships that just require you to enter a name and be lucky. like even a lazy ass fuck could do that and then they really wanna do this? nah. y’all stay twisted.

soflyniggaswannastalkme

Funny shit to me.

dumbthingswhitepplsay:

When Black people talk about Black issues:

  • God, it’s always all about you! Share some of that spotlight and stop hogging all the oppresshuns!!!! You want us to talk about you but you never talk about us!

When Black people talk about other PoC issues:

  • God, it’s none of your business! You don’t know anything, you’re Black, even if you’re mixed, you still LOOK Black! Stop talking about us!