I’m sorry I was born light skinned.
No, I’m not sorry I was born lighter than most. I will not apologize for something I had no control over. Im just so sick and tired of darker skinned PoC trying to make me feel bad for something I HAD NO CONTROL OVER. I didn’t ask to be born light skinned.
I’m also tired of darker skinned PoC trying to make ALL lighter skinned PoC the bad guys. I’m fucking tired of people assuming I think I’m better than you because my skin is lighter. I don’t think I’m better than anyone. Hell, I wish we could all be treated equally.
I’ll admit, lighter skinned PoC do have it way easier than most darker skinned PoC. I say most because not all dark skinned PoC have lived a hard life.
I don’t wish to be brown skinned or dark skinned because I love my skin color. However, I fucking love brown skin & dark skin. There’s just something sooooooo sexy about darker skin. Lol, I still have love for the light bright boys tho.
Another thing before I end this little rant… Can we please learn the difference between brown skin and dark skin -_- most of the who claim they’re dark are actually brown.
My black is beautiful and so is yours and his and hers :-* black is ALWAYS beautiful no matter the shade.
Chile, this sounds like it came from the Derailing for Dummies playbook. If White folks said this shit to PoC to get us to quit complaining about racism, we’d be so far up their asses they may actually get rhythm and learn how to twerk!
Light-skin folk won’t hesitate to use the same tools against dark folk that they complain that Whites use against them.
[ Description: A woman with dark skin and long dark hair styled in cornrows and braids. She is posed in profile facing the left of the image, wearing full-plate armour that doesn’t have individual breasts fashioned into it. She wears a an ornate multihoop earring with a skull-shaped bead at its centre. ]
The Huntress by S. Ross Browne
Um. Arent these dreads?
but the thing about colorism is that if you point out that a “preference” for lighter-skinned people isn’t just a preference but really a reinforcement of what we’ve all been taught, people will call it bitterness.
and that says a lot too.
meanwhile darker skinned people get fewer jobs than our lighter skinned counterparts. are more likely to be incarcerated, are less likely to have the same opportunities. so this “preference” isnt something you’ve thought up all on your own. it isn’t just the way you feel. there’s a whole institution supporting and implementing this “preference,” too.
but yes, i’m just bitter. that’s all it is.
nevermind all the facts. nevermind my life is adversely affected because im darker. nah. im just hatin.
A while ago one of my ex’s was telling me how his then gf (a white girl) had looked at my pics & said to him “How could you have went out with her, she’s ugly”!
It definitely angered me and I wanted to tell her off- I mean, who did she think she was? I was persuaded against it ,though and moved on. But as I remember it now , it made me think of how maybe some white people may see black beauty as “secondary” optional or even out of the question while we have grown up and been taught the standards of white beauty even subconsciously.
I wonder what about me didn’t she think was attractive?
Honestly, I don’t even care.
I had this experience in reverse, the ” girl next door” was a blond blue-eyed girl, she was so ‘down’ for the guy I was dating, she’d try and pull me down at everything.
If we went to a restaurant with mutual friends she’d order a salad and ask why I wasn’t worried about being fatter than normal.
She’d constantly bang on about her aesthetic “all men want a blond woman, they just can’t admit it”
Upon meeting me her instant comment ” you are never as beautiful as he said you were! You are really….um…. Short”
It’s not inconceivable that some White women find the idea of being in competition with black women hideous.
This shit happens all the time. “Don’t wear glasses we can see your Asian side better when you don’t.” Wtf does that even mean? Because I’m blind and squinting you can see the Asian in my eyes? Nah, fuck you. People are always trying to tell me how to bring out the Asian side of my appearance to look better. As if I live to please them. Then when I don’t and continue to get attention they get confused. It’s baffling to some white women that people would want to be with a black women. They can’t understand it.
I’ve had white women get borderline confrontational back when I was dating white men at the realization that whatever guy they were checking for might be more interested in me. Hilariously it never occurred to them that we might not like the same kind of guy or that the guys interested in me weren’t going to be interested in them whether I was there that night or not.
A documentary adressing the issue of ”shadeism” within communities comprised of people of color. Shadism refers to the cultural phenomenon where members of the same ethnicity, nationality, or religion discriminate against one another based on the varying shades of their skins. This documentary looks at shadeism within the South Asian, African-American, and Carribean community.
a must see!