The one thing I’ve learned from nice guys of OK Cupid
We gotta stop lying to these guys.
I know, sometimes we do it because we don’t want the fight, or we’re kinda nervous and some of them scare the crap out of me..so I understand the gentle let down I truly do.
But these motherfuckers think they are -nice-. They think that they are somehow decent human beings and their entire problem is -us- we just aren’t you know looking for nice racist homophobic slut shaming ‘patriarchal’ men like them!
So ladies, when you have the chance, and you feel safe? don’t fucking varnish that shit no more. Be honest ‘You kind of make me uncomfortable, we have nothing in common and the fact that you’re homophobic turns me off’.
Maybe if they start hearing it enough they’ll start believing it..Because really I’m fucking tired of being accused of putting someone in the ‘no bone zone’ because I’m not interested in people who aren’t willing to be more than ‘less of an asshole than the other guys’
I’ve told some dudes flat out they weren’t a catch. I’ve never done internet dating, but offline? They tend to think that makes you a challenge & they try harder to get your attention. It’s funny in a horrifying way how quick some of them are to rewrite themselves to prove you wrong.
It can go both ways and thats why I was really clear about understanding the gentle let down. I do online dating and I’m real clear with a lot of these guys -and- I block and report when it gets to harassing levels and yeah it goes there an awful lot.
In real life? yeah I’ve had a few like that too (my last ex is one, still hounding my ass after I’ve told him I’ve moved on and am with someone new) but seriously I’m dog ass tired of being told it’s because they are -too nice- that I don’t want to reward their fake ass friendship with my pussy.