wolfandbutler

Legit friend-zone shit on my dash

janejacqueline:

karnythia:

annlarimer:

goodmorningvelma:

extremely-clever:

libertarians-and-stoya:

extremely-clever:

This is just your friendly reminder that men use the term friend-zone to rape women and you are NOT, as a man, allowed to reclaim it.

Period.

Even if you’ve heard a woman use the phrase once.

When shit like this exists (HUGE TRIGGER WARNING FOR RAPE), you lose your right to throw this word around.

If you choose to use it, you are an asshole who supports rape culture.

Please, please, please stop.

Check your damn privilege as a female who will never experience the friend zone.

I don’t think you understand - a majority of men do not think it is okay to rape and if you’re getting butthurt over a damned rage comic, then get the fuck off the internet.

Females don’t fucking understand the frustration, the depression and the desperation of the friend zone.  It’s the worst goddamned place to be - especially if you’re lead on.

Seriously.  Check your fucking privilege.

The experiences of raped women > men’s feelings of disappointment

OMG Jenna, did some asshole seriously just tell you to check your privilege for calling out rape culture?!

Will no one think of the Nice Guys in the friend zone? THEIR PAIN IS THE WORST PAIN.

I…uh…I need a drink. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?

lmaoooooo what even this is

Can I just add that I loooove how men use the “silly women will never understand how much the friend zone HURTS” argument even when it’s um completely untrue? Because honestly I don’t know anyone who hasn’t experienced an unrequited crush at some point in their life, no matter what their gender is. Sorry fellas, but you aren’t the only ones to have ever pined for someone who didn’t return your feelings. I mean isn’t that what Taylor Swift’s “You Belong With Me” is all about?

Because god fucking forbid people have agency over their feelings and their bodies and shit

wow

lol for days @ some dudebro telling a female to check her privilege

lol even harder @ said dudebro trying to say that the worst place in the world to ever be in is ‘the friend zone’. THE FRIEND ZONE. POOR PRECIOUS BABY. I AIN’T NEVER HEARD OF A STRUGGLE SO TUFF IN MY LYFE.

also that meme is really fucking disturbing :|

I will say this: to all those men complaining about this, I agree with you: you definitely don’t deserve to be put into the friend zone. Your entitlement and lack of respect for a woman (read: a HUMAN) and her wishes proves what a horrible shitstain of a person you are and I fail to see why anyone would find the idea of your friendship at all appealing or worthwhile. Lick dirty socks away from me. xoxo

babyslime

[ TW: Rape]

To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.

I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.

And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?

So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.

Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-

6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.

6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.

A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?

Rapists do.

They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.

Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.

And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…

Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.