So, this is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time. A lot of thoughts are currently running through my head, and I’m going to attempt to put them together by trying to write it out.
I’ve been seeing things critiquing black people, particularly black women, on tumblr having an audience and not acting a certain way, and it’s just like…why aren’t black women seen as complex human beings? I already know why, but it’s just…really?
There are people complaining about how black women are not acting like the epitome of an sj warrior, but who the fuck said we’re a part of social justice? And is the social justice community REALLY a community, or has it turned into a mob? I know people will laugh at me calling it a “mob,” but I’m not saying that because of the ideals social justice stands for. I’m saying that because of how a lot of social justice groups act.
Black women’s voices are needed in social justice, but they’re often silenced and dismissed if they don’t fit in a certain mold (white) sj warriors fit them in. That’s why many black women don’t carry any sort of sj label all together. It’s like people within social justice hold black women up on a pedestal, but holding someone up on a pedestal is NOT a compliment at all. It’s objectifying and dehumanizing.
Black women are expected to make everybody happy, make everybody feel comfortable, and be likeable by all because being that we’re very oppressed in society, we should be able to understand everybody’s pain. But you can still understand somebody’s pain and not hold it as top priority. However, seems like black women are expected to do just that, and it shows with complaints from many people about how certain black women act on Tumblr.
It’s happened to me — I’ve had some very bad falling outs with people who followed me or knew me on other sites when I started to be more conscious about race, speaking up about my own experiences, and changing myself. I do or say something they don’t like, or I confront them about something, and they get all upset and show just how much they’ve dehumanized me for as long as they’ve known me. That’s why, actually, I don’t fucking trust anybody.
Talking about me personally, what people don’t seem to understand about me is that, being human and still being relatively young, I WILL change. My standards will change. The way I act will change. The way I see people will change. What I will and will not tolerate will change. My wants and needs will change.
And people, ESPECIALLY white people, just hate that. I’m under a major transformation in my life now and am still exploring myself and who I am, something I never had the opportunity to do. And it will take me a while.
I really appreciate about every single black blogger I follow. Seriously, about all of you saved my life and continue to save my life, and I don’t think I express that enough. One way in which you saved my life is by having your individual standards and rules and debunking the ones white society established for PoC to follow. That’s how I learned I can form my own, too. You really helped this biracial kid who grew up in a white culture and was therefore pitiful and clueless in the past. I learned it was okay for me to change, have my own life, and transform when I needed to, and hell, from where I was, I HAD to.
Some bloggers on here are more popular than others. I feel popular with over 400 followers (I mostly got thanks to other bloggers reblogging my things and people liked what I wrote for some reason), but there are bloggers with a lot more than that. But I’m not sure why counts on social networking sites are seen as pedestals. Just because somebody has a lot of followers doesn’t mean they’re not complex human beings and should be held to a standard, and just because somebody has less followers doesn’t mean their voices are meaningless. Is this supposed to be high school or something?
Unless stated otherwise, just assume that people’s blogs are their own spaces not made for anybody else for them. If there are a lot of people in their space, that doesn’t make it any less theirs. I mean, my blog will always be mine, despite how many followers I have (and because of that, I usually lose followers who try to hold me up to their standards, and people usually mistake my politeness with softness).
Quit holding black people, ESPECIALLY black women, on pedestals. That’s not a progressive thing to do at all.