“Men are not the victims of sexism. It is impossible for a man to be the victim of sexism. Just like it’s impossible for a white person to be the victim of racism. Reverse sexism and reverse racism are words invented by white men to label anyone who questions their power and unconscious desire to crap all over minorities and women. Next we’re going to have “When is it International Men’s Day?” - the answer: every day. “When is it white history month?” - every month. Grow up. Your loss of entitlement doesn’t mean you’re the victim of sexism.”
Commenter #51 (via vaginawoolf)
I fundamentally disagree with this as I’ve seen men experience sexism, and white people experience racism. As long as you continue to claim things like this, you feed into the problem which is, yes women can be sexist against men and when those women refuse to hire male nurses, male florists, male baby sitters, etc because of their gender alone, that is sexism, and it is wrong. Yes, people not of Caucasian ethnicity can be racist and when that happens, you have families flipping shit on their Puerto Rican son for dating a white girl, African American comedians perpetuating the cycle of fear, mistrust, and hate between cultures, and parents teaching their children that they’re not supposed to like or trust white people- even of their teachers are white. Shit you not, I have seen all of those things, many times. The fact is that, yes, the minority groups tend to experience and are victims of “ISMS” more than the majority groups. But that doesn’t nullify the fact that it continues to happen on both sides. Just as within the fat positivity movement, I have seen some curvy girls body police/body shame skinny girls, within the LGBT community I’ve seen homosexuals discriminate against bisexuals, etc. To deny that ISMS are universal, come from all angles, go in all directions, is to lie to yourself about reality.
Wow, um, no. You’re majorly confusing racism/sexism with the prejudice that white people/thin people/men face. Because if you’re thin, there is NOT a national campaign by the first lady to “make you healthy” and gain weight. Because if you’re white, the government doesn’t have to TELL employers to stop being racist and employ you. Because if you’re a man, politicians aren’t taking away your rights, and a large group of politicians don’t believe you are subservient to the other gender. Racism, classism, fatphobia, these things ARE NOT microaggressions, this is full blown People-in-power-are-trying-to-take-your-rights-away.
The idea that a women turning down a nurse because he male? Where? Where did you experience this? Because I’ve NEVER heard of that happening, but I have heard of male nurses who were PUSHED to become doctors because the patriarchy says men should never be in females positions. I’ve heard of female nurses who hit that glass ceiling, because no one believed as females that they could DO anything else.
Are you aware that women still only make (on average, some is LOWER) .77 cents to a mans dollar on the same jobs? What do you make of that? You think if women don’t speak out, suddenly the men and women who have been brainwashed into thinking women can never be equal to men will pull their heads out of their asses and suddenly realized patriarchy is bad, and we should treat everyone as equals? What magical land do you live in?!
Oh, a poor American white person was rejected for his skin color by a POC family. Did you know white people are the least likely to marry outside their own skin color? Have you WATCHED the news? Have you SEEN republicans in southern states put voter restriction laws into effect that are ILLEGAL and ONLY AFFECT POC? You’re saying that one small instant where that Puerto Rican family rejected a white girl is EQUIVALENT to the thousands of black, innocent people that have been killed by Police in New York? All over America? Your privilege is REEKING.
You’re telling me that somehow NOT pointing out injustice and -isms is going to somehow make it disappear? If someone is constantly beating you with a baseball bat, does ignoring it make the pain, and the person with the bat, disappear?
As for you stupid ass fatphobia comment, let me tell you something. Nowhere in the WHOLE WORLD are you going to see a thin man/women asked to pay MORE for a seat on a plane.
Yeah, it sucks that there is prejudice, but when people who have privilege stand up in front of a crowd and say “But, what about me?”… Fuck you. We’re all trying to secure rights, and some of us are trying to live long enough to try to change something, and here the privileged people are, complaining about that one isolated incident where someone called you *GASP* a cracker.
ISMS aren’t about HATE, they’re about POWER. POC, women, and fat people DON’T HAVE POWER. Please, educate yourself before you open your mouth on something you don’t understand.